Category: Dating and Relationships
Hokay, maybe it’s because I haven’t gotten any in almost eighteen months, or maybe it’s the prospect of finally meeting a potential boyfriend in California this spring/summer, but I thought I’d (a) very informally introduce myself, (b) jump in cold with both feet and (c) make things fun the first time out. Besides, this is all in fun and no attempt has been made to offend anybody. Anyway, here’s my question:
Gay, straight or in between, and whether or not you’d actually do this or not, where is the most exciting place you’d ever think to have sex because you might just get caught? I’m a gay male, blind since birth, and my potential friend/lover is in a wheelchair, so we were thinking it might be fun to get caught in a stalled elevator. Any thoughts?--J
That would be kinda fun. Well, I hope everything works out for you. :)
Back in my teenage days, I was in a dorm setting and I did get caught. The fantasy is much more fun than the reality. Trust me.
although I've never fantasized about this, I echo what Anthony said. the fantasy is likely much better than the reality.
I suppose that's true. The fantasy, however, of getting caught does add some spice, I would imagine.
I've heard of some bold people who do it in places like in their boss's office. I call them crazy. Lol.
It does, but it depends on who's doing the catching. If it's someone that you're attracted to or want to have fun with and they catch you and tell you that unless they get to join in, they'll expose you, then sure. They can join in, since you're curious about them anyway. In my case, it was a woman in a position of authority, and there was nothing even remotely sexual about it. LOL I'm not trying to spoil the fun here.
Ouch! No pun intended, but that must've been a bitch.
I would like to say one thing to the people who say the fantasy is better than the reality. Its very simple, "Fuckin' duh."
Now, with that out of the way, I'd love to do it on a balcony. My perfect fantasy is to have it be raining, me and a girl go out onto a balcony to stand in the rain; cuz I do that, don't judge. Things start getting hot and heavy and we have sex up against the rail. I think that would be hot, and depending on the height of the balcony, very public.
no, Cody, there's no "fuckin' duh" about it. cause, some people don't/haven't thought about it that way. maybe you don't realize this, but it's true.
I was about to say that, I love the balcony sceen. Though where I was sure that being caught by authority would not be so great. That be the setting I not set myself up in.
Trust me Chelsea, everyone's thought of it. There is a reason this is a fantasy, because getting caught would get you in trouble. Getting caught is a bad thing. Its risking a punishment. People already know that actually doing this would be a lot worse than thinking about it. That's why the call them fantasies.
I'm not gonna argue with you, Cody. I know people who haven't, so I'll leave it at that.
I've never understood why people fantasize about doing it where they could get caught but that's just me. :)
If people wanna tell me their experiences, that's cool as I find them funny in an embarrassing kinda way. Like, some people have said they did it in movie theatres up the back, just how and why? And what about those people who have "quickies" in the lifts (or elivators as it's prefered in the U.S. :)
Sure, reality is reality and fantasy is fantasy, which is why I raised the topic. It's the risk factor that plays a big part here. Most of us would never actually do the thing we fantasize about even if we could get away with it because of the chances of not getting away with it, but it's that weird combination of guilt, excitement, curiosity and let's do something different with our hum-drum excistences. Humans are supposed to be the only species that actually takes risks just for the thrill factor, so if I thought the risks of getting caught trumped the odds of getting away with it, I might allow myself to be persuaded to try it.
when I was younger, this was a much stronger fantasy than it is now, but it still does hold some excitement to this day. I went to a school for the blind, and I always fantasised about one of the male teachers walking in and catching me doing something sexual that I shouldn't be doing, especially in a classroom situation. About the most daring thing I ever did was jerk another guy off in the classroom when I knew that the teacher was going to be gone for the rest of the period. There were a couple of other students in the room, but they were totally blind, and I don't think they had a clue. Part of the thrill was thinking that the teacher could possibly walk in and make me jerk him off as well.
I say if it turns you on to think about it go ahead and try the real thing. Getting caught never was my thing.
I'll have sex anyplace, but only for the sex. I guess you could get arrested, but that just spoil my sex, not be exciting at all. Lol
I don't want to be caught, I just want to enjoy the ride.
Maybe Cody means most people have thought of it? Because it's adventurous, and it would make it evon mor fun, depending on where, and by whom you were caught ofcourse.
if Cody meant that most people have thought of it, I'm sure he would've said "most," not "everyone."
getting caught isn't, and never has been my thing, either, though.
But you have thought of it Chelsea. You may have thought, "Not my thing", or you may have thought, "Sign me the hell up", but you thought of it.
yes, but as I said, I'm not everyone, and I wasn't talking about myself when I said that not everyone has thought of it.
Well, here's my two cents' worth:
I don't see how Soldier can stand at attention with the prospect of getting caught.
Damn would someone just answer his question? God! Anyway, in a park up against the fence.
All depends on the silder.
What's a silder?
Wow, yeah this is notme but the posts are funny. I can totally imagine that happening at a school for the blind Anthony lol!
Sorry, I meant soldier (lol).
Oh yes, it definitely depends on the soldier, and what the guy is in to. I'm very much in to listening, whether it's just one guy having fun or a couple having sex. I kind of wonder what it would be like to be listening to a couple, and then the couple getting caught right in the act. I guess the strongest fantasy for me would be if I got caught sucking a guy off and the catcher happened to be a horny guy who insisted that I also suck him off to keep him quiet.
More noises dear Anthony for you to figure out. Smile.
*was that, oh my God, because she was feeling good, or was that oh, shit due to the sound of the door slamming and someone screaming?
Hmm! Getting caught sucking a guy off and then being blackmailed into a threesome? I love it!!!